Alert: Some people might view the above comment as a guilt trip. Guilt is a form of manipulation. You need to learn to let people do things of their own free will.

If several people are telling you you are exhausting and are a people user...then it probably holds some truth.

It's up to you now to sort through this truth.

Being a people user means people feel like their relationships with you arent reciprocal. Meaning you take, and dont give.

If they say you are exhausting, it means that they are becoming sad, hearing about all your sadness. If you cant deal with it, it makes sense that they can't either. It's time to learn some emotional boundaries.

It's also time to learn about how reciprocal relationships work.

Caring about others, will make them care about you.

In the end, both your friends and you will win if you sort through these things.

I say these things not to be mean, but to help you. Good Luck.