No, I don't think you are selfish, either. Sometimes I just sit, too. I feel like I'm wasting my t's time, but that's MY stuff, he doesn't say anything like that. Your silence might make her feel uncomfortable, might make her feel unskilled - like she doesn't know how best to help you, but that is HER STUFF, HER PROBLEM. It sounds like she is working hard to form a relationship with you so that you do feel more comfortable in session, but NO I don't think you are selfish. ((granite))