Did you ever consider that maybe your therapist is just trying to do what is best for you. Maybe the transference thing is getting in the way. Maybe he really has done all he can with you.

There's no shame or betrayal in that.

lets say I was learning to play violin and was taking lessons for years. One day my teacher may pull me aside and tell me "i have taught you all I can." That would only mean I would need to go to a "better" teacher or a more skilled one to become more proficient. It has no reflection on me or my relationship with my current teacher.

Thought that analogy might help you.