Keep looking for a therapist who specializes in treatment of BPD. I chose to find a therapist who offered the therapy I wanted (psychodynamic/psychoanalytic) and who stated that she works with Personality Disorders. I don't use my insurance because it has a huge deductible. Since I pay, I can go to whomever I choose. That's a great advantage.

One place you might try looking is here: http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/

I looked around this site when I was considering what type of therapy and therapist I wanted: www.guidetopsychology.com

By the way, a good therapist does not steer a session at all. A good therapist will help you learn about yourself; there is no medication for that.

If you like to read, a book about BPD that I enjoyed is: "get me out of here" by rachael reiland.