time to set new goal. what kind of life do you want now. past is done its over. what do you want now. what steps will it take to get there write down the goal under the goal put the steps it will take to accomplish that goal. i dont know write positive affirmations on a piece of paper to carry with you look at it when ever you want/need. kids will be fine if you arent the perfect mom. no one is perfect. you have been given an opportunity to start your life over and direct it in whatever direction you want. where do you want your life to go?