Hello CompletelyDiff and welcome to our forum.

My ex-wife is gay - would have been ever so nice had she told me when we were dating, and of course, it never occurred to me to ask her, and again, I didn't see any signs stating she was gay - as in she didn't hang a shingle on her forehead stating, "I am a Lesbian". So how was I to know? Sighsss.

But, in getting back to your question, my ex-wife was sexually abused by her father, so much so, that any sexual experience with her was a very rare thing - something I just knew I was ever so blessed when it happened.

It completely turned her off of men, and while she did try to live a straight life - it was simply more than she could bear - and to be honest, I'm not so sure I could have handled it had she had continued trying.

Last I heard, she had married a woman in Texas. Even sent that woman a condolence card! Bet she had no idea of what she was getting into!

But my ex-wife hasn't ever forgiven me for sending that card, or had thoughts of turning straight. So I don't have any answers sweetie, but will tell you this ... you only live once, so whatever you decide, make sure it is the right thing for you first.

Please do keep us informed to your progress and feel free to post as often as you like.

Your friend Sam

"You'll never know what you're capable of if you don't try."