Therapy really has helped me. I think it is one of the most important things I have ever done in my life. It does help me quit avoiding my problems by focusing my attention on them more than I might if I wasn't in therapy. (I tend to be highly avoidant.) So yes, it does mean I think about my problems more, but I don't think it is a negative. I don't obsess about my problems, but just try for self-improvement. Sometimes it's hard to quit thinking about the problems because we want to be there (fixed?) yesterday. So I guess it means trying to find that balance between thinking too much and avoiding. Hope you can find that balance, feary....