Dear Thunderbear,,, I have made great strides in managing my sudden and violent outbursts in the past few years. I blame this improvement on learning to meditate. There is one form of meditation in particular that helped me the most, called Calm Abiding. Essentially it is taking time every day, (preferably twice a day, morning and evening), to just sit or walk and be Mindful of all the thoughts and feelings that go through you, and DO NOT respond to them in any way,, just notice them, and keep sitting, or walking. Watch your breath, it will tell you right away when you are getting caught in a thought or feeling... When you have done this many times you will find that the skills transfer to real life~!! At the moment when your anger is triggered, some part of you will be watching, and will remember,,, " hey, wait, i don't have to respond to this feeling~!!! " This is one of the most glorious feelings in the world,,, a feeling of Self Control, of worthiness. I wish it for you... Gus