Hello, leidesdorff, welcome to PsychCentral (PC). I do not think you did anything wrong, it sounds like your husband is having some issues. But, if he will not talk to you, that is not good, how can you help? I am surprised that he won't touch you though, do you ask him for that? Does he have men friends? Maybe he can talk to them or you can ask one you know well enough to talk to him?