i have to admit sometimes i wonder why everyone cant just "get over it" then i have to take a step back and realize people say that to me too. lol. its so easy to say that when you arent the one going throught it. whatever it is. i do know i get offended when i am told that but after a while i think about what they were telling me to get over. i know its not so easy to get over things and some i dont know if are possible(and are diff for each person) but to take that first step toward "dealing with it" is another story. at least i can do my part to try. i know with my mother in particular when she says it to me its because she is tired of hearing about it and usually cant take anymore. she once resoponded to me that she cant deal with my stuff because she has her own. everyone does and perhaps people that say to get over it cant handle the it any more than we can. anyway im starting to ramble.