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Originally Posted by Emotionally Dead
Well, I agree. Anyone can change, and we can change ourselves. However, I think you will still (for the most part) feel the need to explain more than might be needed. I don't see a problem with explaining yourself though, and if people don't like me for it then tough. I just know that for myself, I won't ever be able to get out of that. I will always feel the need to explain why I did whatever it was I did, and to have a reason for it. Maybe you won't always have to, though. I hope you find a way to not have to at all because life is much easier without dealing with that, haha.
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you know, you do have a very good point tho, i was just thinking about it, it is really important to be able to accept things about yourself, and not always try to change everything too... i just feel like, for me, it makes my life hard to be that way, so i'd like to change some aspects of the behavior to make it less of a stumbling block... hope that makes sense
(lol, but you probably already knew that)
thank you also rhiannonsmoon, for your reply... i am trying to figure out how to do the things that you are describing... will be working on it
this part of your reply gave me pause tho:
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Point being that you have an obsessive need to go over your story again and you are subconsciously giving them one more opportunity to say "AAAAhhhhh yes you're right".
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i'm going to have to think about that
... perhaps, my internal motivation is that i am arguing after all, tho, like i said it doesn't seem like it to me at the time. what i would really like to hear is "oh, i see where you are coming from" or something along those lines... but *shrugs* admitting you are wrong is a difficult thing for most people to do...