((((((((((((Minime)))))))))))
I read your post last night but then my kids started pestering me so I didn't get a chance to respond.

I think I understand a little bit about how that feels. My T had surgery in January and was out for a long time. It sucked. And it was kind of weird and scary. If it had been my friend, I would have taken over a meal, maybe done some house cleaning for her, definitely shoveled her driveway. But since she is my T, I couldn't do much. I sent a card. But I didn't even know how the surgery went or how things were going until I finally saw her again.

It's ok to feel angry at your other T. Are you sure she isn't hearing you? Did she say something that made you think that? Or maybe it's just how you are perceiving things because of your feelings about the other T.

Can you tell her you feel like she isn't hearing you?
That's a scary thing to do, but it could help your T understand how to make you feel heard and taken care of.

Take care of yourself Minime, hand in there, ok?