Hi CD:
Welcome welcome.

Your post was short, but I'll just throw out some ideas that may or may not apply to you.

Are you more concerned that you feel yourself mentally straying from your partner, or because you're thinking about a different gender? If I were in her shoes, I would be devastated just at the idea that you're thinking about other people, regardless of gender. But I guess that it's with a man would be a double-slap in the face, from what you implied, right?

Could it be that you're just a little bit bored? I think that happens in many long term relationships. The intimacy can often become routine and maybe your imagination is looking for something to kick-start your sexuality. Lots of "straight" people have gay fantasies, and also kinky fantasies -- doing things that they are normally not inclined to do, just to keep their mind turned on.

You're hitting on something I've always been confused about with other people. Why do we consider it necessary to label OURSELVES as gay or straight or whatever? Maybe you just like people. I've had relationships with both men and women and I know that I wouldn't want to limit myself either way by putting a label on myself. For some reason, that annoys people (usually the women) by not "committing" to on version or the other, but I just don't see the point in doing that.

Anyway, hope to see you post more. You can always PM one of us privately if you prefer.

Welcome again,
LMo

We are ALL going to be a-ok!