Having lived with a smoker who started when he was 13 and would go into a panic if he left the house and realized a block later that he forgot his cigarettes, I'd say she's not going to quit until (if) she's ready to quit. One day he just up and quit, didn't even mention it to anyone. Two weeks later I mentioned that he forgot his cigarettes on the nightstand and he said he knew, he stopped two weeks earlier. My reply? "Ohhhh, so that's why you've been so crabby lately."

Turns out he never really quit, he just sneaked them in the basement, when he was outside, out with friends, etc. Now he's back to smoking openly and telling most everyone who doesn't like it to "just deal with it."

Hmmm, what was my point? Oh yeah. Don't push her to quit. She has to decide for herself it's better to live smoke free and have her own reasons. Doing something just to please someone else is never a good idea.

It's good that you're making positive changes for yourself, though. Maybe one of these days it'll click and she'll decide to join you.