Hello scooter,

How are things going with your stepkids? I had a situation here recently where my partners daughter was being absolutely horrid to me and she posted things on her facebook page & my fb pafe that were simply awful. It was his birthday yesterday & she called wanting to speak to him. The first time she called it was just the static warbly noise that you hear on a bad moile line so I hung up. She called everyone and told them I simply hung up on her but I didn't find that out till a short time later when his mother called and I asked her if it was she who called earlier but couldn't get through. She said no it was her grandaughter. Anyway he told his mother he wouldn't be speaking to her for long because of the things she had plastered all over her FB page and my FB page, and that he was very angry about it.

She called back and said a few perfunctuary things and then launched into another attack of me. He just cut her off and hung up. Now hopefully she realises that doing things the way her mother does them simply won't work. My partner loves and respects me and knows that I have tried everything in my power to bring them together as father and kids; but their mother has done everything to keep them apart but blamed me.

But your husband has to be strong and consolidated with you or nothing will work, relationship included. If he loves you, guilt or not he should be fathering as in parenting the children and I agree you don't need to be their friend at all. That rarely works anyway because they take advantage of it.

I really wish you luck on this; please keep us updated so we can offer support