Would you give a more specific example of what you mean, please, tryingtobeme?

I used to take the blame for things that weren't really my fault--like, I'd recommend a restaurant, and then a person would have a bad experience there, and I would feel very guilty and low. I think it was a self-esteem issue with me. After all, now I know that people have different tastes in things and all restaurants goof up once in a while.

If you would tell me a bit more, then maybe I could offer some suggestions. You are obviously a caring person. It is possible to take on too many of other people's problems, as you say, and that can be very draining. Therapists, I know, try to leave their patients at work, for example....