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Originally Posted by billi_leli
My mood today says "b*t*c*.
It's because I am really frustrated with the way people seem to be toward me and I don't know what it is or why.
When I seem to make a friend anywhere, or think that I am finally connecting with someone, they LEAVE or stop talking to me!
I have been making it clear what I will and will not tolerate in relationships. when someone tells me they are going to do something, I now expect them to follow thru. When someone says I mean something to them, I expect them to act like it.
But it seems like they still don't do that.
I try to be nice about it.
I do.
I just tell them how I feel, I don't attack them.
But how do you get ppl to treat you right?
To do that give and take thing?
Billi
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hi billi,
a good thought provoking post!!
what works for me-
i never expect others to have the same value system as me. if i do, i usually will be disappointed.
move cautiously in a new relationship to get to know the other person.
learn about "red flags" that can alert you to keep a healthy distance from ppl who don't have your values in friendships. this doesn't necessarily mean cutting them off. it just means your setting some boundaries.
being aware that they may have something else going on in their life that may be distracting them. this keeps me from taking a lot of things personally. it may not have anything to do with me.
cherishing the good friends i have found along the way. for that i am blessed.
may you find some too. 
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