What's important to remember is that BPD does not define you. If you want a better life, if you're sick of BPD, then beat it! You have the power to heal yourself. No meds or doctors will do it for you. They can help but they are not the solution.
That said, I think that if you feel your psychologist is not helping, look for a new one. Once you get that spark of connection with your psych, you'll know it. I find that especially those of us who have BPD benefit from this.
I have BPD also and I majored in psychology in college, so I'm speaking from experience. If you ever need help or have any questions, feel free to PM me.
Keep us posted.