#1 no one quits smoking unless they want to quit

I've helped my mother quit smoking. I'd talk and pour my heart out to her. I allowed her to talk about her smoking issues. I gave her a lot of attention, and we did a lot of things together to keep her busy. I'd remind her about her mom's quadruple by-pass surgeries and also her brother's. I'd always say, "think of me when you light your next cigarette." I'd give her many hugs. But all of that, she did the work. I was just someone to help her be accountable.

Stupid me started smoking a few years ago and I quit for my own health reasons. Zyban worked for me!

Now, I'm working on my hubby. I haven't put any guilt trips on him. I haven't poured out my heart. I basically told him Dec. 31th is his last cigarette smoking day. I'm pregnant and he won't be a smoker when the baby's born. I don't know if the ultimatum will work. If not, then I'll be crying and stuff in January until he does quit.

When it comes to addictions, the user is in denial. You've gotta bring reality to her. Talk, cry, hug, support, and do anything to remind her that there are more important things in life than her next drag.