My daughter is 11 years old and has just started at her new school. In the uk the children leave their first school so leaving behind many of there friends. My youngest child goes into school early and this allows me to still drop off my daughter and her school.So l still take her and pick her up each day.
The problem seems to be actually going in first thing in the morning as when l collect her she is chatty and appears cheerful. I ask her about her day and she says it's been 'alright' (which l think means it was good) but then as the night progresses she develops headaches, tummy aches etc. Unitl today l have given her a pill and still taking her anyway hoping that this is just an adjustment period but then today she refused the pill for her tummy ache saying it wont help anyway but she ended up sobbing in the car.
With the best will in the world l can't send her in when she is so obviously distressed, so l parked outside the school and tried to talk to her but to no avail. I told her l needed to let the school know that she wouldnt be in and she didnt want me to go in but l told her l had to. While l was in there l spoke with her head of year and explained how the last two weeks have been and my concerns..............so we have agreed that l will take my daughter in at 8.15 am tomorrow to discuus with the head of year and my daughter what the problem is and wether it is just an adjustment time for her.
As a family we have all been through so much since nov ............breakup of my marriage, house being repossessed, death of her grandfather and now her dad has a new girlfriend...............Is starting a new school just the last straw for my daughter????????? i'm so scared that all of her stability has gone to pot, she seems to have lost all her confidence and seems that she needs to be next to me
How do l help her get those precious carefree days back.............as a mom l am struggling so any ideas, suggestions, comments anything would be greatly appreciated. Have you been in this situation / or was there something that your mom could have done to help you

please anyone................................l dont want her to hurt like this