Wrote my dad a confrontational e-mail.
Told him he had hurt my feelings the other day and asked if he could do/say things differently.
He wrote back and said he thinks I am being overly sensitive and that he has only been supportive of me and I am the one who never talks.
I wrote back to him pointing out how critical he has been to me over the years.
But...
I am beginning to doubt myself.
His criticisms have mostly been so small. They are like jabs. They just
add up over 20+ years.
Then there was one that I can't let go of. He only said it once,
"Face it. You have never made any good decisions."
But I can't seem to let it go.
The little jabs plus this one comment, plus years of cutting me off and not listening to me has made me feel totally invisible to him.
But... am I being over sensitive?
Shouldn't I just "get a grip" and not take everything he says and does so personally?
There is something about him being my dad that seems to make everything so magnified. It's like, you always want your parents to be there for you - to an extent that it can be unhealthy?
Ugh. Maybe this is all just the depression talking. I feel like I want to just say, "forget it. I don't need anything from you."
Maybe it's all just the depression talking.