Hi Fins,
Thanks so much for your thoughtful and wise response.
So true... I could really relate to this comment.
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Originally Posted by purple_fins
I'm sorry you also got the "narcissistic monster" thrown at you... it's never their fault or cause to look at how YOU feel..... no... it's all in protecting themselves.
fins
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My dad is so defensive because it is so obvious he never got over how his parents hurt him. I mean, to this day he talks about how his mother ruined his life. But it is
always about him. This is what I told him in my e-mail to him. But I kinda wished I hadn't. I just don't know if it's worth it, you know? He'll just get defensive and feel hurt and... well its not about me (of course).
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Originally Posted by purple_fins
I don't look for ANYTHING from them... it has made me feel less captive now-- it's a release that I've needed for so so long.
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The hard part is that I am taking money from him. For some bills and for therapy. It's awful. I have fantasies about paying him back everything he's given me and being free, free, free. But the truth is, I just can't right now. What I would give to be able to work and not fall into the depression hole. But the last time I tried it I wound up in a bad place. NOt to say that I won't be working soon. I just can't do it yet. Some days I can't even get out of bed. But I don't know what is worse.
I don't want to have to take anything from him and his wife. Makes me feel miserable.
Ah well.
Thank you for your response.
