good for u Elana ! just remember we dont choose our parents. he seems like he has problems of his own. just take him as he is , i think then u will find peace in your reltionship with him. as someone said get ur support elsewhere coz this channel in my opinion has problems. he needs help trust me Elana n i think this is the best he can do for u. study n make a productive life for yourself n let go plz. my sister kept on dragging the situationn with our mom for years on end until she turned 36 n had a baby. it was a waste of time on someone who didnt deserve one minute of my time she said after she finally decided to let go. its a tough learning or character building situation .thats all ! u r still so young n life is in front of u grab it n become the next bill gates or whoever. think humanity , think the planet think big u deserve it , u can do it.