i agree with nupoet 64. could be a combo of a lot. but a T would be very helpful. kids (especially that young) process things much differently. a T knows how to pull it out. thru coloring, games etc. and if she's protective of you, she might not open up to you. that's the way my daughter was in a different situation. she was little older, 5 grade, but still couldn't get her to talk about. but child therapists know what to do. give it a try. but its important to find one she likes and can be comfortable with. with my daughter we changed 3 times. good luck