It took me a long time to realize that how I want things is how I want them, not necessarily how someone else does. We have a loose agreement of his doing dishes, my cooking, that sort of thing (and we each do our own laundry but I do the "joint" laundry like towels and dish cloths, sheets, etc.) but if I don't like when he does the dishes, I can do them myself but that's not him not doing what he says, that's me wanting something different. If your boyfriend doesn't complain when things are dusty (no fair complaining and not doing anything with one's own complaints) then he doesn't mind a little dust; that's you who wants things dust-free and why should he have to do what you want? And "hoping" a male will become a good mind reader and "surprise" one by thinking like a female, I wish you luck with that one

Your style is "neater" and less dusty than his; that's not someone's "fault", that's just difference in style. If you put the tag for your shirt on the table on the way out (instead of seeking out the trashcan) why do you expect someone else to throw out the trash you made? Yes, it would be nice and you and I would throw away his trash if we saw it but that's us and how we were raised; he wasn't raised the same way but that doesn't make the way we were raised "right" and how he does things "wrong"! Don't make the mistake of trying to make him over in your image!

My husband is 8 inches taller than I am; have you any idea how hard it is for a tall man to look into the refrigerator (especially if the freezer is on the top)? Why would they want to bend down and find moldy bagels, especially if they didn't put it there/don't suspect it's there in the first place?