when i am angry i usually know why i feel that way. a way of coping with anger for me is to try to channel it into something positive...meaning not just letting it rip cause doing that for me is not accomplishing anything healthy in my life. anger is a secondary emotion that is usually fear based, a primary emotion. so i try to look at why i feel that way and think about constructive ways to express myself.
also if someone triggers anger in me i try to ask myself, how important is this? usually it's not that important in the big scheme of things and i can let it go. i do find that ppl are my biggest trigger for anger. don't want to avoid ppl so i have learned some ways to set boundaries in relationships. that works for me.
why do you feel hurt and abandoned?