Lynn,
Thanks for the advice about meditation. When I was younger, my mom used to have me try to count to 10. I wasn't very good at it. I used to use meditation to fall asleep at night, so I started avoiding using it for other things, for fear that it would ruin my sleep meditation. Then I did a day program where we meditated every day... after lunch... which, unsurprisingly, led me to fall asleep at least once, and very close the rest of the time. I think I might dig out some index cards and write down those questions on them so next time I get angry, I can look at them. Maybe even write down 1 through 10 just to remind me to count.
Madisgram,
I frequently don't know why I'm upset. Something just tips me off, usually something tiny, and I can't stop my anger, at least not until I have a full blown fit. It's pretty ridiculous. I think if I could just some how interrupt the cycle, do both what you and Lynn suggested, take a moment to think about why I"m angry. But then, I get stuck. What do I do after I realize why I'm angry? When I'm angry, I can't think of constructive ways to express myself. I also usually get even more angry when I realize how dumb it is for me to be angry, or that my anger is all inside me and not because someone else did something that warranted me becoming angry. I have a huge fear of abandonment so I tend to feel even the slightest bit of perceived rejection as being abandoned.
Lets Talk,
I like the advice for going for a walk/run. My problem is, I usually get angry really late at night, and I'm not sure I would be comfortable going out, and I'm certain my boyfriend would not allow it. He can't take me for a walk at 1 am especially when he has to get up the next day and go to work.
Thanks for all the advice, I really appreciate it. I'm going to keep trying, I think the idea of putting it on the notecard may work out well for me. I've tried journaling, coloring, going to sleep, all of those things. None of those have helped me, but hopefully this will.
If anyone has any other suggestions, I'd love to hear them! I'm trying to stay open to new ideas and positive, but it's hard when it you've been struggling for awhile and this whole.. interrupting the cycle, which is what I need to do, just seems.. impossible.
Thanks again!
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