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Originally Posted by treehouse
I guess I'm wondering, can therapy JUST be support? No processing, just being, resting, being cared for.
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Your therapy hasn't been all just support. You have had many sessions where you did really hard work and processing. Now you are doing some support sessions. Are you wondering can entire sessions be
only support? Yes, definitely. If you need to do more processing and work later, you can return to that. I have had quite a few sessions I think were support only. What is funny is that once in a while my T says something about my sessions that shows he views them in a different way. I may think we were doing "support" and then he will sling these clinical terms at me for what we were doing. Well, maybe they aren't clinical terms but phrases that indicate more of a directedness. Like we will be sitting there sharing with each other similar childhood experiences and I will think we were chatting. But he says this is building our relationship or bonding. (Especially the reciprocity is important for bonding.) Or I will think I am getting support but he says we are doing "ego work." For everything that happens in our session, he has a name for it! (And usually he does not share his terminology, thank goodness!)
Maybe if you told your T you thought you were getting support, he would say you were working to internalize his presence and caring so as to strengthen your ego and reinforce your secure attachment. Something like that...
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Originally Posted by treehouse
He gave me some "directives", ... to really really know that however I am is truly "good enough".
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I think this is great advice. And maybe your therapy is truly good enough too--just the way it is right now.