MMF,

OK, here's the last thing and then I have to go do a huge amount of work as I am very behind...

I really really hate it when people tell me to read this book or that because it will solve my problems. But this book is very good. It's about surviving divorce, but its vignettes on various relationships are amazingly good. You will find yourself and your wife in at least one of them. I was amazed when I read it:

Crazy Time: Surviving divorce and Building a New Life. Maybe it will help you avoide divorce.

Best regards,
Posey