Oh I'm so saddened to hear this.

It appears that marriage is not the solution for either of you. You both need to go to counseling to find better ways to cope. You both need individual and also couple's counseling, imnohpapo.

If the above isn't going to happen, can you get the marriage annulled?

Things won't change on their own. And you can't change him, he has to change himself and he can't do it alone (as he's proven.) He was untruthful with you and still thinks it has nothing to do with you. Not a foundation you can build a new married life with, if you ask me (and you did.)

I guess you need to write down your ideals for this situation. Then write down what you can change and what you can't. If you don't wish to annual the marriage, then maybe a separation? He needs to get the point that this is NOT what you signed up for and you won't give your life for it.

TC of yourself!