Hi ((maymie)) - you sound like a wonderful daughter and I'm sorry you're in this position. I understand how you feel some what because my father died when I was 2 and my mom developed an unhealthy attachment to her 2 youngest children - me and my now deceased brother.

Both are now deceased, but she never wanted either of us to have a life because she was afraid of being alone. Does your mom have a therapist or would she consider speaking to one? Does she have friends or other family members? How about a pet....or get her involved in some hobbies?

It may come down to where you have no choice but to be a little firm with her and try not to let it affect you. She needs to know, you need to get going with your life and she can either be supportive or you might have to take a few steps back.

I think you've gone out of your way to be a good daughter but I think you have the same unhealthy attachment me and my brother had. Unfortunately I did have to go on with my life without her blessing and later on reconciled on a healthier level. It's time for you to establish some healthy boundaries. Don't let her ruin it for you or steal your joy. Good luck.