That sounds really really hard, MUE. I don't know what I would do. Do you have another individual session on the books so that even if you skip one, you still have another lined up? That would make me feel more secure, like hey, we will get to sorting this all out, I am committed to therapy (see, I have another session scheduled!), but also give me time to process on my own. I think I am a slow processor so would value time off before discussing the group with my T. (Some of my most important processing occurs outside of therapy, not with my T. Is it that way for you too?) Alternatively, I would go to the individual therapy appointment and focus on my individual therapy issues and not let group therapy enter my session.

On reading what you wrote, I felt like if it were me, I would be a bit angry that my group therapy invades my individual therapy sessions like that. I know that is not how you view group therapy, though, and that you often discuss it in individual. I just treasure my individual therapy so much and the work we do there is so important, that I would not want to spend my precious therapy time on these group issues. I would draw firmer boundaries between my group and individual sessions, and possibly might not allow the same therapist to do both with me. I know you have been doing some important work in individual therapy lately, and it seems a shame that you have to put that on hold either because you are canceling or because if you did go to individual, your session would be dominated by this blow-up at group.