I was a borderline in treatment ( my therapist never told me my diagnosis) years ago, and then I went back to her years later (we moved back to the area) after I already had kids. Then after awhile she hinted at my diagnosis. I noticed that I had been verbally abusing my kids--and a bit, only, of physical abuse. "Why didn't you tell me I might end up abusing my own kids?" I asked her. (My mother psychologically abused me. My therapist said I would have been schizophrenic had I not had a sister.) "Well, it was a judgment call," she said. "I didn't even know for sure that you would even have any children."

It is "shocking" to note that these tendencies do tend to be passed on. I strongly encourage you, if you're not already, to get into therapy. You are very wise that you have picked up on this possibility and are concerned. As my therapist said, "We can break the cycle." Okay?