Wow that's a lot on your proverbial plate! Well, if ever there was a time to begin with a clean slate and make your own rules to live by, now's the time! Not everyone gets this opportunity, just sorry it's coming after paying a high cost in relationships. (However, it does seem you've weeded out those who really aren't going to support you.)

Find someone to help you sort things through? Is there free help through your area? Generally there's free resource help through any ER and their social worker who works out of there.

I'm so so sorry you have been really "laid low" and want you to know that you can rise up again. Try not to think about everything at once, for that is surely overwhelming. Take the top 3 items and work on them, if you can.