Hello maymie,

What a pity she feels so afraid of being alone that she is wanting to make you think that you are no good for marriage or for anyone but her. You are being abused and manipulated and she is exerting more control methods over you in an attempt to keep you there. She is bitter and uhappy and because you have given your earlier life to her completely she is now expecting that you will be there with her until she passes over.

It is your time and it is fair for you to have fun and love and romance! Don't give it up no matter what. You must be firm and gentle with your mum and sit her down, tell her that you have to have a life and you are happy with the man you are with.

Whether you marry this man or another your mum is going to be objectionable as she is so afraid. It isn't really that she doesn't love you, she doesn't know how to express it because she has never had to share you with anyone. But honestly if she can't be happy for you then maybe you will have to tell her "mum this is going to happen if you are with me or not. I love you and I want you with me but if you want to hurt me I just can't put up with that". I really wish you luck and I hope you get this sorted out before it goes too much farther.