Geez, could you possibly be getting triggered? I mean, what you are describing your T saying to you, does it make you feel like she is not paying attention to you? I know this was a big trigger for me. My mom didn't pay any attention to me so as an adult when I got any hint that someone wasn't interested in me I would get triggered. So if you are getting triggered by this, 1) are your feelings towards your parents coming out toward her?, or 2) do you want to punish her now, or 3) are you distancing yourself from her so you won't get hurt any more?

BTW, great tuning into your feelings!!