Thanks for all the replies! It helps give me perspective.

There had been some rearranging at work that made T's wife the Big Boss that I certainly could not have foreseen going into therapy. Well actually, even more relevant, she has a different last name than T so I just plain didn't know she was his wife until I got invited to a party at their house one day! Talk about being caught off-guard.

I guess it started there because he would have known right away of the conflict because he actually had me specify where I work in this big organization I work for. When I found out, he was matter-of-fact about confidentiality and said he keeps his work separate from his personal life. Also, that I could indeed talk about problems with his wife if it came up (it hasn't). And no, his wife shouldn't know about how I am his client because I was clear on that with T. I certainly haven't said anything. But...

I find myself guessing all the time as to whether or not she knows because T said something. Then this email thing comes up. Of course, I had someone from outside our company check and you can find my work email from the company directory just by googling it. So he very well could have done that.

He didn't reschedule per say, just told me same time next week. His wife isn't at work so something must be up. I'm trying not to be overly needy but it kind of sucks, for lack of a better word. Like the poster who said she hasn't had more than 4 sessions in a row yet...neither have I!!!! It is frustrating. I don't want to be overly attached to him, but at this point, I'm having trouble being attached at all...in an appropriate therapeutic way.

Then again, I understand that things come up. I do get evening appts. to fit my schedule.

Re: calling at work vs. emailing...not sure what would be better. It would have been no less of a surprise to get a phone call.

My biggest worry is that he is so established and far along in his career that this kind of thing will be status quo. Maybe I need to talk about that with him.