Right. His schedule & confidentiality are the two biggies.

Regarding the party, I did not go. It was an easy out because a whole bunch of people including my direct boss couldn't make it so I didn't feel a lot of pressure to go. What is kind of laughable though is that he ended up being at another party related to my work because he was escorting his wife. This one wasn't at his house. Still, when I turned around and saw him there I wanted to hide! I'm happy to say that I managed to avoid him the whole time so it wasn't an issue. Btw, he never brings any of this stuff up. I still don't even know if he knew I had an invitation to his house with his home phone and his cell number on it, etc.

I tell ya, it is a little weird. I end up with info about him that is harmless, but that I wouldn't otherwise have. His hobbies, what this cancellation might be about (his wife hasn't been into work since Monday), where he lives, etc. I want to be mature enough to handle it though. I don't want to make him uncomfortable either. It can't be fun for him either.