I'm so sorry to read this. I too know how bad anxiety can be. And it's not right that your husband is issuing these ultimatums. Your psychiatrist should be the person you are working with to manage your anxiety issues. Apart from anything else, it's never advisable to quit benzodiazepines cold turkey. Gosh. I'm really sorry you are in this situation. Do you have any professional support at all? A therapist, for example? And perhaps your psychiatrist could prescribe you something else to help your anxiety. Some of the SSRIs (Zoloft etc) can help with anxiety issues.

Please do try and get some professional help (((((((violet)))))))