That's the pits to feel like they have you under a microscope and are threatening to take your kids or imply that you aren't a good enough parent, when you are doing the best you can. I've been there too, and have had breakdowns because of it. ((( hugs )))

I hope you can accept what is helpful, and still keep seeing yourself as and presenting yourself as the caring and competent and good enough mom that you know you are.