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You said you don't know how to be gentle with yourself. I think doing those things like taking your kids to the park and sitting outside while you watch your son's game. Those are the things that you do to take care of yourself. When you are doing so much work, you also have to do so much of the positive stuff to take care of yourself. It is these things that keep the balance from getting out of control. Do as much of these things as you need to.