My hubby also tries to pretend the BP doesn't exist. I respect his decision to do this as he says he doesn't want to be my doctor, he wants to be my hubby. Also I don't know how well I'd take suggestions on my moods from him. He actively avoids educating himself about BP (or maybe just acts like it...) I think I like being able to leave the BP stuff to my doc, therapist and best friend who will always hear me out, don't have to live with me and don't care if I ignore their advice!!!
He does remind me about meds when I get sick or depressed (when I usually forget), asks about my doctors and he is kind, sensitive and forgiving when it comes to my moods. He also lets me know when my moods are affecting him opr he is struggling for some other reason. He is happy to let me use him as a sounding board when I am manic to avoid some of my more crazy stunts. The thing I like best is that while he is accomodating towards my needs he still has expectations that I will be better and be able to contribute to our lives. I think this has been really important in my recovery from the rlast few years which were really bad .