I know what you mean. You're in a tough spot.

You have the same issue regardless of sexual preference. You're in a relationship that you think might not be right for you for the long run, but you feel guilty about ending it because you know it will hurt her.

I think you should focus on the relationship aspect first, and then think about the gender issue. She is going to be hurt either way, but I think it would be a little easier to stomach that it just isn't working out, rather than having her stress out that you might have been fantasizing about something else the entire time you were with her.

What do you think? I'm sorry you're going through this. 14 years is a long time.

We are ALL going to be a-ok!