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Originally Posted by RomanSunburn
What do I do after I realize why I'm angry? When I'm angry, I can't think of constructive ways to express myself. I also usually get even more angry when I realize how dumb it is for me to be angry, or that my anger is all inside me and not because someone else did something that warranted me becoming angry.
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I go with the "dumbness" and carry it to extreme and then laugh at myself! Argue with yourself instead of the other person, call yourself a "dummy" and gently make fun of yourself. Call yourself a "poor dumb sod" or something and realize that you are trying to avoid feeling embarrassed for "being" so dumb as to be angry. It's okay! All of you is you and is wonderful!
Think about it this way; what if someone else had written this post. Pretend it's not your problem at all but you're reading about it. Wouldn't you want to help the person, soothe them and wish you could be there to help calm them? It's your lucky day, you are there to help them because them is you!
To heck with "constructive", just stop and apologize to the other person(s) and tell them your anger "appears" to want to get out of hand. The other people will respond just like we have, they'll want to help.