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Old Sep 17, 2010, 08:56 AM
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Originally Posted by neri View Post
The fact is, I can't handle being that close to someone, when I know it's NEVER gonna lead anywhere, and when it means so much more for me than for him.
I would deal with this, rather than try to transfer it onto "guilt" over what you may/may not be doing to him. It's like he's getting a new job and you're still at the same old one (or he's moving to a new city and you're staying, etc.). There's loss here for you, grieve! I don't think you can get rid of any of it by reframing it as guilt.
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