Im going to be the odd one out here again....

I think if it's really upsetting you and you are in a loving relationship then the person doing the upsetting should-- if he/she loves you-- cease any unnecessary behavior. That is what mature love is.

The way I see it-- this "pop culture" is VERY OK with sexually objectifing women and thinks it's fine if a married man does so on his own, away from his partner-- I doubt that men would be so accepting if the tables were turned-- I can almost guarantee that they would feel about the same as you do.

What you feel is of a healthy frame of mind-- one that respects a union between a man and woman. I imagine one hundred years ago everyone would have agreed with your feelings and thought your husband as not acting very loving towards you.
I think your value is beautiful and unfortunately these days-- becoming more and more rare.... as people are taught to spit on the sacred and intimately private union of a man and woman.
Marriage doesn't have the value it used to, sadly.

***Please note-- I am NOT religious... NO No..... I just believe in respect, love and the value of ones feelings and the idea of a loving marriage.... where both partners feelings are considered.

I wish the best for you..... whatever you decide and/or happens.... I hope it gives you much peace within self.

respectfully,
fins (I'm sticking my neck out here... as it seems people get offended with my stand on this subject.. but I wanted you to know there is another way to look at this and that you are not alone or wrong in feeling upset)