I find that it's best to think of that part of our path through life as being a learning experience & even though we thought we felt the love emotions when the other person didn't end up feeling that way, it's good proof that you are capable of feeling that way with the right person.

The right person will come along when the time is right.....but until then, just enjoy your life as being independent & use this time to learn more about yourself & your feelings & what you expect out of a real lasting relationship. Sometimes we go through these beginning relationships even if they are long term at the time in order to be able to sort better through our feelings. I believe that marriage is a lasting relationship & that when you commit to the marriage, then you have to work it through until there is no more options (which I came to after 33 years of marriage).

For me, living alone would have been the better thing, but there was a reason for my marriage at the time also.....now there is a reason for my not having any relationship with anyone as it's time to put into who I am & what I believe rather than living my life for someone else.

I know the best mind set I would come up with when experiencing a break-up was that I went through the relationship in order to learn something about myself & in order for my growth as a person....& I thank the relationship, learn as much as I possibly could from it & then go on with my life & put my energy into finding my new path & direction. Sometimes after a relationship, we are better distincing ourselves until we feel comfortable & happy with where we are & who we are....only then can you truly open yourself up to another person & allow them into your life & mind to get to know them.

Only when we truly know ourselves & our own values are we able to connect with someone else who truly fits with our life.

Best wishes on getting through this. Remember that every loss in life does cause a grief of sorts as we need to sort through what we lost & where we are going alone.

wishing you much peace & happiness in your future