My boyfriend and I are kind of dealing with this issue right now, and have been for awhile. Granted, we've also been together for almost 5 years, but because the first 4 of those were long distance, we never really had the whole honeymoon period fade to normal business. But yeah, even when we were long distance, my boyfriend just didn't have a high sex drive. He LOVES cuddling. Honestly, I think he'd be perfectly fine if we only cuddled every night and maybe fooled around three times a month. He's all about the affection, but not so much about the sex. I kind of wonder if it's because his first experience wasn't that great; he was pretty much forced by his ex, so now he just doesn't put as much importance on it as he does on cuddling. Recently, my mom and sister were visiting for a week, and we didn't do anything that week. He didn't even try to start anything for the first two days (at which point I got frustrated and brought it up) and he said, "I didn't realize we were in a rush." Boys are silly.

Okay, enough rambling. I just wanted you to know that you're not alone. But I agree, there really isn't any "normal." This is one of those things we kind of have to decide if we can handle. Am I gunna leave my boyfriend because of his low sex drive? No. Am I gunna be frustrated and have to constantly work on my self esteem/image and not let myself blame myself for it? Yes. A very big resounding yes on that one.

Also, remember your sex drive might be a little higher than it used to be because of the fact that the anti depressants are out of your system (heck, I notice the difference if I forget one day of prozac!)

Good luck! Don't beat yourself up over this! I promise it's not about you