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Originally Posted by Laurie1041
Thanks so much for bringing up the subject of saving money! After my last manic episode (I go on shopping sprees), my mom offered to become my trustee and I agreed to going to a lawyer to have the necessary documents prepared. My mom pays for all of my living expenses and we agreed to an amount of cash that I get each week for incidentals. This has proven to be the only way that I can protect what little money I have in the event of a future manic episode. If I could only undo the past and reclaim all the money I spent on mania-fueled spending! But that's not possible so all I can do is to forgive myself and move on.
I save money by only buying what is absolutely necessary and discussing possible purchases through my support team before I make a final decision. Fortunately, I have no access to debit cards, credit cards, checks, etc. I buy my food at Trader Joes using "gift" cards that my mom gives me every week. As I write this, I realize I must sound like a teenager, but I am 50 years old! But in my case, after racking up nearly $60,000 on credit cards and going through $80,000 in cash (in 4 months), having my mom as my trustee has given me tools to spend money wisely. It is my intention to take over the responsibility of paying my own bills when I have been able to attain 12 or more months of a stable mood. So far, I have had stable moods for one month now and am actively engaged in a wellness and recovery program. I am crossing my fingers!
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Hi- We are about the same age with very similiar stories with the money & can relate to your feelings about how it is tough to forgive yourself.That was very smart of you to give your mother control. So many times I would think- I will never do that again with the credit cards only to do it again & again. Now I realize that I had no control over it. Well, better late than never. I finally have an answer with my BP II diagnosis and I'm looking forward to a much better future. Thanks for sharing your story.