Lynn is definitely correct. Husbands (men for that matter) don't listen to words the same way women do. Also, if they don't know anything about what you are talking about & what you are trying to get across, they just end up tuning it all out.

Example, a friend of mine had just gotten married & her husband was having some problems with a situation that effected his job. Both my husband & I were at the ranch & I heard exactly what her husband was talking about where my husband ended up making a comment about the weather. Later on, I confronted my husband about how insensitive he was & how rude it was to blow off what the husband was talking about. My husband's comment was that he didn't know anything about what he was talking about so he tuned it out & didn't hear a word he was saying after he decided he couldn't relate to what he was talking about.

My husband was like that continually through all my difficult times & that along with many other reasons are why I left him & moved across the country to be away from him.

I realized from the beginning of my marriage that if I wanted him to hear what I was saying & be a part of the conversation, I almost had to sit him down across from me & tell him to "read my lips' & then ask him to repeat what I had said & then tell me in his own words what it was that I was trying to really say. Definitely Not the way to run a marriage, but honestly, most men don't listen & definitely don't hear what we are trying to say unless we are more than clear as to what we are saying & what we expect out of them in response.

Honestly, I would suggest that you get a good therapist who you can pay to listen & hear what you are saying & give you the feedback you really need because husband's just don't cut it if they don't come by it naturally (in which case you wouldn't be having the problems you are having)